30 Lessons in 30 Years
I turned 30 a week ago and have been reflecting on just some of the things I've learned so far.
In no particular order…
1. Meet people where they meet you. Match energy—don’t overexert yourself for people who wouldn’t do the same.
2. You can outgrow any relationship, and it’s okay to let go and love from afar.
3. The way people treat you is never personal—it’s a reflection of them, not you.
4. Resting is productive. Actually prioritize it.
5. Don’t take serious advice from someone whose life you wouldn’t want to live. If you wouldn’t switch places, just nod and move on.
6. Rejection is redirection—what’s meant for you won’t miss you.
7. Trust your instincts—if something feels off, it probably is.
8. Consistency beats motivation in business, fitness, and relationships.
9. You don’t owe everyone an explanation. “No” or “I don’t want to” are good enough.
10. Take action even if you don’t feel ready—confidence comes from doing.
11. Let yourself be pursued. You don’t have to chase what’s meant for you.
12. Find beauty where you can. When you look for it, you find more of it.
13. Style isn’t about trends; it’s about authenticity and feeling at home in what you wear.
14. Discipline creates freedom. The more structure you build, the more ease you create.
15. Your energy is sacred—protect it. Not everyone deserves access to you.
16. No reaction or walking away is often the best reaction in negative situations.
17. Your job doesn’t define your worth. Don’t dedicate your life to work—pursue your passions and find balance.
18. You create your own suffering. That’s a hard truth, but it’s also liberating. Change your mindset, and you can release yourself.
19. You don’t have to work hard to deserve good things. Read that one as many times as you need to.
20. There’s no shame in evolving. Outgrowing spaces, people, and mindsets is part of life.
21. Life moves in seasons, just like the weather. Storms and winters may be harsh, but they always pass—warmth and sunshine are inevitable.
22. Flow, don’t force. What’s meant for you won’t require begging, chasing, or struggling.
23. If you admire something about someone, tell them—it’ll raise both your energies.
24. You’re allowed to change your mind. Growth means shifting perspectives.
25. A soft life isn’t about avoiding hard things, but about creating a life that nourishes you.
26. You don’t need external validation. The only approval that truly matters is your own.
27. Live the life you want, but in a way that doesn’t harm yourself or others.
28. If you want answers from the universe, God, or whatever you believe in, make sure you’re tuned in and listening.
29. Move with intention. Always.
30. You’re not behind—you’re on your own timeline, living your own beautiful journey.
I’d love to know if any of these resonate for you. Ciao for now! ✨
Ariane! This was beautiful and so wise. Wow #18 realllly resonated and hit home, thank you! Cheers to 30 <3